When my mother in law passed, my wife spent the last 6 months in this strange limbo between surviving and pre-mourning. The funeral came and went with less emotion than she or I expected, possibly because there was a sense of relief after a 6mo decline. About a month later it hit like an emotional brick wall. Even after 2.5 years, it still hits hard for her some days and when it happens it's completely out of the blue.
It's not easy. I hope it's not too forward for a complete stranger to say this, but just in case you need a reminder, give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you need to feel. There is no right or wrong way to feel.
James, thanks, that makes a lot of sense. I hope your wife finds comfort in the good memories of her mother. I am relieved my dad is no longer suffering but I will miss him so much x
I'm sorry to hear, Joanne. All my best to you and yours.
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ReplyDeleteWhen my mother in law passed, my wife spent the last 6 months in this strange limbo between surviving and pre-mourning. The funeral came and went with less emotion than she or I expected, possibly because there was a sense of relief after a 6mo decline. About a month later it hit like an emotional brick wall. Even after 2.5 years, it still hits hard for her some days and when it happens it's completely out of the blue.
It's not easy. I hope it's not too forward for a complete stranger to say this, but just in case you need a reminder, give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you need to feel. There is no right or wrong way to feel.
Take care Joanne
James, thanks, that makes a lot of sense. I hope your wife finds comfort in the good memories of her mother. I am relieved my dad is no longer suffering but I will miss him so much x
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